But first off for those who don't know I lost my father at the age of 10, and so far its only been 5 years without him and there's not a day that I don't think or want him here with me.
#1 The struggles of being a young lady or man. Everyone needs a father, right? Would some or most agree? Having a father in your life can show you a lot of different things like love,discipline,how to have self-respect,how to fix things, wisdom,and most of all how to be brave. Let's start with love, a father should love his child more than anything in the world (not including beliefs) and they should show it instead of hiding it because it helps the child know but can also give them the hope or confidence they need. When my father showed me that he loved me with all his heart I knew that I had hope for anything and everything in this world or even in people. Next is discipline, a father can show a child that having discipline for themselves or him giving discipline comes with the self-respect and in general just having respect. For example, my father told my sister and I that we couldn't leave the house in short shorts because that's having no respect for yourself or when we would talk back to our mother my father would spank us or ground us for a week.(which was no fun at all!) Then there's how to fix things or even paint (in my case anyways). Father's are good at knowing how to fix things up or even paint something. My father was a carpenter so for me it was learning how to paint, use a hammer, screwdrivers, and much more tools that I can't remember anymore. I do miss the smells that were always around me. The smell of fresh cut plywood, the smell of paint and the smell of hardwood floor polish. I even miss the sounds of the tools and his demanding voice telling someone to grab the nails and a hammer. The last two are bravery and wisdom, a father can show a child that there are things that seem scary but you can be brave and get through it or he could show them the wisdom he got when he did the same thing they are doing, did or trying to do.
So the struggles of being a young lady or man are when not having a father can be tough because when it's time for science fair or even getting into trouble there will be only one person to turn too. Yes, mothers are capable of trying to help and tell you the certain things you need to hear but sometimes it won't be from the person you wish it was from nor will you even listen to her until the second or third time it happens and you realize the mistake that has been done. I hope children come to realize that whatever parent they have is trying or going to try their best to teach them everything they need to know to be able to get through things.
#2 Having issues with the boy/girlfriend. I know for a fact that most children will run to their parents for advice about relationships because they feel comfortable talking to them about it and they know that they have a lot of experience of it. When my father was around I never got the chance to even talk to him about boys for the simple fact that his rule was no eyes on boys only eyes on books! Therefore, after he passed I always went to my mom for help because that's when things became different at school; I had that freedom to look where I wanted without hearing almost every day "boys are bad for you and books are good for you." Although I wish I would have stayed away from them because of the heartaches. Now guys would go to their father's to ask "how do I make something up to her?" or "Dad I don't understand this feeling I have when I'm with her." I'm going to tell you this, you can also go to your mom because she can help too! I know that it could be hard because you were closer to your father but if you want real good advice she'll be the second best to him.
I remember when my father told my sister and me that boys have cooties and if we kissed them or if they kissed us we would get pregnant! My sister and I freaked out and feared of getting or kissing a boy. We were only 4 and 5 years old at the time of learning that information.
#3 Comparing the boyfriend to your father. (Sorry to most guys out there but this is a major deal for the ladies.) Ladies, I know that you must compare your boyfriends to your father to see if he's the one for you because the simple fact that everyone in the world knows that every girl's father is their first love. When your father is gone you remember everything about them. Who they were, what they were like, what they smelled like, what they did with you, how they showed love to you and so on. Now, I know for sure I always compare the guy I'm dating at the time with my father to see if they're anything alike. Which has turned out to a no so far but I'm not giving up I've got a long life ahead of me still! Therefore ladies and/or males I encourage you to try it and don't think it's a bad thing if you already do it because there are others out there who do it take me as an example. My father was a person who loved to help others with what he could, he was a strong, wise, funny, and loveable man, he smelled really good I mean so good that everyone who smelled his fell in love with him. My father would play around with me, teach me how to work hard and get a job done and show me how to make your own BBQ sauce, he would show me love by telling me, picking on me, giving me long warm tight (not too tight so I can breath) hugs and looking at me with his warm dark brown eyes with his famous smirk after doing the listed things above. I remember comparing my ex with my father because in a way I thought they were alike but I was wrong. I realized that my father always knew how to comfort me when I needed it and I thought I had that comfort with my ex but then it came to me that it wasn't comforting it was something else. So again I encourage you to try comparing them two together. Good Luck and Be Strong!
**These are just my opinions, I'm sure people can disagree with me but I am just speaking from my heart.**
Always remember that a guy will never replace your father nor will he replace the love that he gave and showed you. Remember that your father is never gone that he's with you in your heart.
Thank you to my favorite blogger who is also family +Bredonda rae . If you get the chance also check out her blog its one of the best! I also want to thank everyone who reads my blog y'all are the reason I try my best to make my writing better each time. Thank you for the support you give me. I will try to get TWS back on track please help if you want to see amazing tales again!!
